Tuesday, 13 February 2024

Linda-maree Conyard

Today we are exploring the essence of stability. We will be considering how to nurture our inner solidity so that we transcend the ebb and flow of external circumstances.

Before moving forward, I would like to remind you of my analogy of the jellyfish and the whale. Most of us live like jellyfish, at the mercy of the ocean, jostled around, without our own free will and letting the external environment decide our fate. As opposed to the whale who knows when to swim north and when to swim south. He follows his own intrinsic inner knowing, and to him, it is irrelevant what the ocean does.

We will rummage through the depths of stability with the hope of increasing your ability to nurture your emotional, physical, and psychological well-being from within and turn your focus from the external (jellyfish) world to your internal (whale) world.

In this edition of Trauma Bytes, we'll explore:

  • ​Comprehending Stability as Inner Solidity;
  • Cultivating Consciousness for Stability; and
  • Practices for Cultivating Stability.

Just like last week's abundance edition, I'm excited for you to explore Stability in its fullness! This truly is a game changer when you stop letting the ocean toss you around like a jellyfish. Be the whale!

1. Comprehending Stability as Inner Solidity
Stability emanates from a deep sense of inner solidity, with its foundation deeply rooted in emotional capacity, physical vitality, and psychological well-being.

Stability is the unwavering anchor amidst life's turbulent waters, providing a steady framework for navigating challenges and embracing opportunities.

Stability Examples

  • ​Consistent Emotional Regulation
  • Regular Physical Exercise
  • Mindful Meditation Practice
  • Healthy Boundary Setting
  • Cultivating Supportive Relationships

Instability Examples

  • ​Emotional Rollercoaster
  • Sedentary Lifestyle
  • Chaotic Thought Patterns
  • People-Pleasing Behaviour
  • Toxic Relationship Dynamics

The benefits of being stable are bountiful. Our lives are enriched with peace, clarity, a calm mind, a deep connection to our Soul and increased capacity to be with whatever is happening in our lives.

We get to navigate life's challenges with grace and ease, fostering deeper connections with ourselves and others.

Through stability, we cultivate a sense of groundedness and empowerment, allowing us to thrive amidst life's complexities.

2. Cultivating Consciousness for Stability
Bringing consciousness to stability requires us to increase our awareness and be willing to repeat the new way of being umpteen times. The challenge is breaking our hardwired habitual patterns that feel so familiar and comfortable even when we know we want to change.

The most significant pattern most of us have is looking externally to ourselves, which is the direction of the jellyfish in the ocean. It takes effort and commitment for us to interrupt our patterns and change our view to within.

We must see this as more of a pilgrimage of self-discovery and intentional practice. It involves cultivating awareness of our thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations and creating a sense of inner equilibrium throughout life's fluctuations.

3. Practices for Cultivating Stability
Cultivating stability using mindfulness practices offers you the opportunity to experience your life very differently. By practicing mindfulness and being intentional, we start to be more like the whale.

These practices are suggested so you can increase your awareness of what happens in your body as you meet any kind of situation in your daily life. Without awareness, change can't happen. If you can't see it then you can't work on it. But if you see it you can't not see it.

* Mindful Breathing Exercises - Take time out throughout your day to check in on your breathing. Here are some check-in questions you may like to start with.

  • ​Am I breathing or am I holding your breath?
  • Where do I notice my breath going to? ie my throat, my chest, my belly.
  • Is it shallow or deep?

Once you have established how you are breathing, take a few intentional breaths that go right to your belly. Notice how that feels. Repeat this as many times as you can throughout your day.

* Reflection - This is a great practice to help us reveal what we do subconsciously. Set aside time to reflect (and journal if you like to write) on situations you faced during your day. Become aware of what your thoughts, emotions, and body sensations were. What insights did you become aware of during this process?

* Body Scan - This is a practice of scanning the body to cultivate awareness of physical sensations and promote stress reduction.

Take a moment to settle yourself in your chair. Feel your feet on the ground and feel the weight of your body in the chair. Feel the support of the back of the chair. Notice your breath; there is no need to change it - just notice it. Now slowly take your attention from the top of your head down to your feet. All you are doing is noticing what you feel in your body.

You may like to write what you noticed. You may experience changes when you notice something somewhere in your body. It may release or may tighten. Just allow the experience.

* Healthy Lifestyle Choices - This one is a bit of a no-brainer, and it can sometimes be difficult to implement. No need to be hard on yourself, simply be aware of what choices you are making and own them. Maybe you could take notice of how you feel after the choice you made.

* Therapeutic Support - If you need help with any of these, you may like to seek therapeutic support or counselling to explore underlying emotional and psychological patterns and develop strategies for how to work with them.

Feel free to adapt and integrate these practices into your day, knowing that each mindful effort you put in benefits you and those around you.

I love hearing from you and receiving your updates, so please keep them coming.

May you be well, may you be happy, and may you have inner peace.

Linda ♡

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