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Linda Conyard

02 January 2024 | Trauma Bytes

Embarking on new beginnings often sparks excitement within us. We eagerly anticipate change, hoping for a shift away from our current circumstances. However, it's crucial to pause and ask ourselves: What precisely excites us about these new beginnings? Are we seeking an escape from our present situation? Or are we clear in our decision and are genuinely following what we know to be the best next step for us?

Consider this scenario: dissatisfied with our current workplace, we secure a new job, feeling the rush of excitement for a fresh start. Yet, we might soon discover similar challenges or dissatisfaction in the new role. This recurrence may leave us feeling exactly the same as we felt in the job we just left and we experience something akin to the movie "Groundhog Day."

It's wonderful to be excited about things in your life. It's equally important to double-check that you are not repeating a pattern and just running from one situation to another that has you experiencing the same thing. In this edition of Trauma Bytes, we'll explore:
  • Excitement plus Consciousness;
  • Cultivating Mindful Clarity; and
  • Practical Practices for Clarity.
Recognizing the source of our excitement for new beginnings is vital. Are we excited about genuinely new opportunities, or are we merely seeking to flee from our current discomfort? Exploring our intentions and the driving force behind our excitement allows for a deeper understanding of our motivations.

1. Excitement plus Consciousness

Excitement often accompanies the prospect of a new beginning, and it's imperative to discern its root cause. We often expect that we need to investigate the causes of so-called negative emotions, but do we think the same for the positive ones?

I invite you to explore the underlying reasons for your excitement. Are you genuinely enthusiastic about the opportunities that lie ahead, or is it a response to feeling discontent with your current situation? Delve into your motivations and uncover the truth about whether they stem from a desire for substantial growth or you are escaping discomfort. Embracing self-reflection helps unearth the authenticity behind your emotions and intentions.

A clue that we may be creating this beginning because we want relief from our current reality may be that we are thinking it all out. When we are led by our inner knowing, we need to do less thinking.

2. Cultivating Mindful Clarity

“If you don’t master your mind, you won’t master anything.” Linda Conyard

Mindfulness is a powerful tool you can use to bring into awareness what hides within and allows your repeating patterns to continue. If you don't know these patterns exist, then you aren't able to do something about them.

"Once you see something you can't not see it." Linda Conyard

Learning to be more mindful will allow you to see what is leading you into a repeating pattern and allow you to gain clarity before leaping into new beginnings.

"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." Anais Nin

These practices can aid in examining our thoughts and emotions with impartiality. It provides a space to explore our desires without being swayed by temporary emotions. This mindful introspection facilitates a deeper understanding of your aspirations, aiding in making informed and conscious choices.

3. Practical Practices for Clarity

Dedicate time to journal your thoughts, emotions, and aspirations regarding the impending change. Use this practice as a means of introspection, allowing your thoughts to flow freely onto paper. Use questions that probe your intentions behind seeking this change, uncovering whether it stems from a genuine desire for growth or a need to escape.

By creating a space of non-reactivity, mindfulness enables a clear, unbiased exploration of your desires and motivations. To cultivate mindful clarity before diving into new beginnings, consider these practices:

Reflective Journaling

Take time to journal your thoughts and emotions about the impending change. Ask yourself probing questions: What are my motivations for this change? Am I seeking escape or genuine growth? Observe your feelings without judgment.

Mindful Decision-Making

Prior to making significant decisions, create some moments of stillness for yourself. Take time to allow yourself to arrive in your body and on your chair. Notice your body breathing itself. No need to change anything, just observe.

Allow the mind to settle as much as possible, observing your thoughts and emotions without attempting to control or alter them. This mindful pause fosters a space for clarity to emerge, enabling you to make decisions rooted in awareness rather than reactive impulses.

Allow yourself to sit with the decision, noticing your feelings and thoughts without rushing to conclusions. Allow the answer to rise up within you not from your mind.

Introspective Dialogue

Initiate an inner dialogue, engaging in thoughtful conversations with yourself. Compassionately question the nature of your desires and expectations surrounding the impending change.

Examine whether the excitement is sustained by a genuine yearning for progress or a fleeting urge to escape discomfort. This introspective dialogue encourages an honest exploration of your intentions.

By expanding upon and actively engaging in these mindful practices, you are cultivating a foundation of clarity, authenticity and an honest connection with yourself. This approach empowers you to embrace new beginnings with a profound understanding of your motivations, guiding you away from repetitive cycles and towards purposeful growth and fulfilment.

This approach helps us transcend the Groundhog Day cycle by fostering awareness and intentionality in our choices.

May this week's Trauma Bytes guide you to become increasingly conscious of the new beginnings you find in your life and move forward with clarity, authenticity and the wisdom to break free from repetitive cycles.

Linda ♡

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About The Author - Linda Conyard
Rational Theorist, Visionary, Socialpreneur & Advocate Collective Healing

Linda has a Master of Gestalt Psychotherapy, is a Family Constellations Facilitator, and specializes in Trauma Recovery and Transgenerational Trauma Issues and Collective Trauma. She is very passionate about providing Trauma Sensitivity training to those who want to become more sensitive to trauma while working within any of the health, education, justice, and government systems.

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